How Do You Communicate Your Needs
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How Do You Communicate Your Needs
Do you have fears around being yourself and if you communicate your needs that those around you will see who you really are and leave you?
Post your comments would love to hear what you have to say.
Friday, July 2nd 2010 at 9:29 pm |
What a great message, Tricia! I lived far too many years living my life based on what I thought I “should” do, and what I thought everyone else wanted or expected me to be. It was exhausting!
In the past year of living for me again, people have been really supportive and it’s made it much easier to be more open than I’ve ever been before. But I know that it isn’t that way for everyone, and it can be so much more difficult if the people closest to you don’t support you.
xoxo
Saturday, July 3rd 2010 at 9:33 am |
Hey Lori, When you create a supportive environment it is so easy. Embracing yourself is amazing and liberating. I want to reach out to as many people as I can and help them not to give up on themselves.
This has been an amazing year for you and I am so excited for you!!
Monday, July 5th 2010 at 3:41 pm |
This is a real “thinker” of a question!
As far as family and some friends – not so much, they know me by now and I am what I am. But everyone else…a whole different story. I know I’m a good person and good traits. I know I work hard and have good skills to offer clients. BUT, I do have this quirky personality that sometimes I worry may get in the way. I do worry that I charge more than I should (although my coach wants to reach thru the phone and shake me when she hears me say these things). So then I do have a tendency to do “extra” for clients. Then still worry that I haven’t done enough.
Monday, July 5th 2010 at 4:33 pm |
Hi Liz, Ask yourself why do you feel that you charge too much? Feelings of how worthy am I? How good am I? seem to be coming into play. Time to drop those questions because when you believe in yourself and what you have to offer then you are on the right track. If you know that what you are offering is in alignment with yourself its all good. Your coach is right stop second guessing yourself. When she is done shaking you can I finish???
Tuesday, July 6th 2010 at 7:16 pm |
Hey Tricia,
Excellent post for many reasons. Not speaking your truth causes all sorts of emotional and often financial chain reactions. You can only shove your truth down so far before it starts to erupt from your gut. As you said, when it reaches that stage, there’s no telling where the suppressed debris will land.
Much better to sit down with someone and say how you feel. Why we’ve become frightened to do that is something our society needs to examine. We learn to muzzle our truth at an early age — you may “hurt” someone, etc. Unfortunately, you end up severely hurting yourself.
You’ve got a great audio presence!
Giulietta
Tuesday, July 6th 2010 at 8:26 pm |
Awesome Giulietta, You are so right we have learned to muzzle our truths for so many reasons. It is time to reverse that open up and be ourselves.